THE Day has come! Intros day 1

The day we have been waiting for has finally arrived! I don’t think you need to be in our situation to appreciate how nervous we both were! I have had a few share of exams, near death hospital memories, met a few heads of states and royals, had pre-marriage vibes…etc but nothing comes even close to the level of nervousness I felt all day. It culminated during the drive to the Amazing FC house!

(From now on I will refer to her as the Amazing FC because she goes way above and beyond her duty in everything she does for us and for the boys! A few nights ago she recorded a short video on her phone: she made the boys say good night to us and that they are looking forward to meeting us soon! As I said: AMAZING FOSTER CARER!)

We were supposed to meet the SW outside the house and go in together. We both arrived sooner (guess SW was apprehensive too!) and the kids were not back from school yet, so we waited patientlyΒ in our car. Hubby even said that the boys have seen our car in the DVD so they might recognise it, but by the time we figured we should park elsewhere the FC’s car pulled up. We tried to hide, but those clever little monkeys did recognise the car and practically jumped out of their car and ran towards ours. The excitement on their faces!!!! Those huge smiles!!! Their wide eyes!!! Their silent shouts!!!! (ok, I wipe my tears again and continue in a minute)

That’s NOT how we intended the first meet to happen; on the streets, in front of other people! But once they spotted us there was no turning back! So we quickly locked the car (managed to leave all my stuff including phone and tissues inside), quickly grabbed the flowers, cake and the 2 soft toys and walked over to them!

Snoops (7) could not speak; he was just smiling at me with mouth hung open. It was an awkward moment. I managed to say ‘Hi’ before he said ‘hello mummy, it is so nice to meet you’. Hubby just came over and by then Snoops recovered so he ran to him and hugged his legs saying ‘hello daddy!’ We both swallowed our happy tears and ushered them into the house.

Goofs (6) was inside, a little more apprehensive, nonetheless he blocked the entrance and would not let us in without a hug! Both boys were soooo excited they literally could NOT contain themselves. We expected this… when I say ‘we expected this’ I mean we were told this might happen; we paid attention during the trainings; we understand their difficulties in regulating themselves, but it’s one thing to know in your head and an entirely different thing experiencing it! We were excited too – no question about that! But nothing like them!!! We tried to match their level of excitement; we jumped up and down with them, ran around the rooms, tried to speak louder than them (if possible).

They didn’t even realise the SW was there, too, she had to ask for a hug! SW managed to take a few pictures of us for the Life Story Book, it was incredible how easily they cuddled up with us for a photo! Snoops is a quiet and shy little boy – or so we were told. In reality he was in my face and could not shut up! πŸ™‚ He wanted to say soooo much all at once he really struggled to say the words; it was utterly cute! Goofs, the extrovert took an instant liking at the introvert daddy and within minutes he was climbing up on him, pinning him down to the floor and engaged in play fight! Poor hubbs has bruised ribs already!

We of course had to watch the DVD together. They were over the moon, kept on saying to us ‘wait for it, daddy will show up in a second!’or ‘look, there is you in the kitchen’ or ‘pause, look, this is my bedroom!’ as if we have never seen it before! It was quite endearing!

Our original 1 hour stay flew by in no time. I didn’t even notice when the SW left; apparently she said ‘we were all so natural together that she didn’t need to stay’. I asked the Amazing FC if we should leave; she encouraged us to stay for tea. It was difficult to get the boys to calm down a bit to sit down around the table to eat!

Goofs already started to push the boundaries. The Amazing FC told her to put his feet down; his response: ‘I Β have a new mummy now, you don’t tell me what to do!’ I tried to intervene and said to him ‘I agree with her, you need to put your feet down!’ Surprise, surprise, he disobeyed me too! Dinner was quite chaotic; they were utterly goofy, mischievous and often straight out silly. The Amazing FC had to tell them off quite a few times. She said ‘you both have lovely manners, stop showing off now!’ This worked for about 2 minutes then it started again!

During dinner we went from ‘new mummy’ to first name basis to ‘hey you’ to stepmum (where did that come from???) and back. We are completely OK with this! Poor kids, it must be so confusing to them! The Amazing FC is doing a superb job; she prepared them wonderfully and on the surface they are able to call us Mummy and Daddy, but we are unsure how deep their understanding goes at this point. In the heat of the moment we are back to first names, until a grown up refers to one of us as Mummy or Daddy, then they slip back. We expect this to be the case for a while…

After dinner it was time for the daily reward chart and stickers. They tried to convince me they deserve stars for ‘eating breakfast nicely’, but when the Amazing FC coughed from the kitchen they both quickly changed their version to ‘OK, maybe not today’ πŸ™‚ We looked at the calendar together. The Amazing FC wrote onto the calendar what we will do each day and together we counted down the next 10 days at which point they will move in permanently! On the surface they seemed excited about it…

As a matter of calming them down we tried to suggest we play with Lego. Snoops was happy to comply and ran upstairs to pull out the box. Goofs thought that was silly and wanted to play a different game, but he wouldn’t say what. He ran out of the room upset, then came back after a few minutes and spilled out that he wants to play ‘Tickling’. I was amazed how openly and honestly he is asking for a human touch! Sadly we didn’t think it was a good idea so close to bed time and eventually he joined his brother and Daddy in building a Lego car.

Before we left we asked them if there was anything they wanted to send to their new house. We ended up taking a bike (my goodness, they ARE big!!!) and a scooter. Without me prompting both boys told me they will be ‘good boys tonight and will go to bed nicely!’ (I suspect the Amazing FC had something to do with this!?) Will see tomorrow!

We said our goodbyes, we were back to Mummy/Daddy and ‘look forward to pick us up from school tomorrow’. We managed to crawl back to the car, closed the doors and just sat. Daddy’s only comments: ‘Wow. I have 2 children!’

On the way home I opened a dictation app on my phone to record the day> ‘This is Captain Mummy on stardate 23rd May 2016: Today we…’ We discussed the day, the feelings, emotions, little things we picked up on, already some concerns we might need to address soon. When we got back home we recorded a few “supplimentals’ (all hail Star Trek!) and were ready to crash into bed around 7.30pm.

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25 thoughts on “THE Day has come! Intros day 1

  1. myrealfairy.com says:

    Thats a very big step and I can see that the emotions for the boys seemed to go full circle with what names to use. Great that you recorded your thoughts though a dictation app, smart move. Thanks so much for sharing with #mainyloveseaster and I look forward to more:)
    Mainy

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  2. Paula from Her Life Is Love says:

    You had me sucked into this post.. I read the whole thing and wow, I’m so excited for you and your husband’s adoption journey. They sound like a happy and handful bunch. I can’t wait for the permanent move into your household πŸ™‚ #thelistlinky

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    • feelingmumyet says:

      Hi Paula, this was an older post, we have the boys in our house now for almost a year with lots of challenges – feel free to read newer posts too. Thanks for commenting πŸ˜‰

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  3. RawChildhood says:

    I loved reading this, how amazing to be able to do this for children, I think it is just great! If i had the space at home I would love to be able to adopt or even foster children but I think that would have to wait until my own children are older. Wonderful post! #fabfridaypost

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    • feelingmumyet says:

      Thanks so much! I do know many people who do just that; wait till their children are older, out of the house and then open up their hearts and house to children again – let me know when you get to that point πŸ˜‰ Thanks for reading and commenting

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    • feelingmumyet says:

      Thanks so much! Yes, it was a very strange and emotionally filled day! Now we passed our 1 year familyversary together and still going strong! πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading and commenting

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  4. ethannevelyn.com says:

    I love your journey. It is so exciting for you, your husband and the boys too. So great to hear that they are very open to the new beginning and excited to be with you. Yes, there are so many challenges but not to sound so cliché, I think you are meant to be together. ❀

    Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful personal story with us on #FabFridayPost xx

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  5. Jade says:

    This post is amazing and oh so emotional. It’s wonderful to ready about a family in the making, feeling like I was there for those first precious hours.

    Thank you so much for sharing.

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  6. Nicole Roder says:

    I am a SW and I worked in FC for a few years. THANK YOU so much for being the permanent home base for these children. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you how many of these kids languish without ever finding a permanent family. You are a mum AND an angel!

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    • feelingmumyet says:

      Hello Nicole and welcome to our world. One year in I don’t always feel like an angel, but we are still going strong as a family of four! πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading and commenting!

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